Everyone at some point or the other in their life is making a sacrifice of some kind but some think they have the monopoly on going without and will go on and on about it and you are the go to person to go on about it.
For your own sake save yourself now and here is why
You Will Burn Out
Sometimes being the go to person in your circle can be flattering but, family and office dramas, relationship entanglements, job hunting woes and all manner of heart wrenching details about everyone’s disasters can become a strain on your overall health and happiness and soon you will start to feel it.
Cancelling your own plans to spend hours with them in person or hours and hours going back and forth on messaging apps, looking for solutions or resources will come to punish you one day. When your support becomes an expectation and when getting help from you becomes an obligation for you, means being there during their worst moments has become so routine. This can become an expensive routine on your health so it is time to save yourself.
The guilt will probably hit you immediately but, the time has come to save yourself and create boundaries. Setting a boundary can feel like you’re being cruel or selfish, but that guilt experts say often isn’t a sign you’re doing something wrong. It’s a sign you’re doing something new. Do it, save yourself!
You Will Start Feeling Used
Feeling used and not feeling the love will come sooner than you think after years of being everyone’s confidant, mentor or even unpaid therapist. Also, it may even come on a day that you need their help or company the most. On this day, you will find there is no one there to help you. Why, because they have things to do or are ‘busy’.
Also, one day noticing that you are left out for happy stuff but for sad events you are the go to will be a blow and you will start to feel used. Before you get to the point where you see that you only matter when things are falling apart and not when they are hunky dory, save yourself.
Unreciprocated and unbalanced friendships can and do easily turn to burnout so stop showing up for everyone. Pull back and create some distance and you will see who your real friends are and who really needs your input.
