You have finally made it to your own home, are earning some money but are feeling lonely. This is a very common thing for many people as making new friends at work is legitimately hard!
Friendships at work take time but it is possible if you
Are Positive
Do not always be the one that is negative about things that are planned at your office for recreation. The one that says,
“I do not do that.”
Instead show interest. Even if you’re not going out to do something you have done before, really like to do or are shy about doing. Just try. This will make the others feel comfortable about asking you to join them.
Ask the right questions about what will happen and encourage them to open up by saying things like, “Tell me more.” Smile. Smiling while listening will create a positive effect on the other person. They’ll feel more comfortable and encouraged.
Accept Invites
When you’re invited to a gathering or event, accept the invitation. The place and the things that are happening there may not be the usual stuff you do but experience it anyway. Of course, do not do anything that you are absolutely uncomfortable with.
It may not have been your cup of tea but, do not make it a topic of gossip the next day at work. What you should do is return the favor by inviting them somewhere you are comfortable with. Share with them the things you like to do for leisure and get to know each other. Who knows, you might end up finding a middle ground and striking up a good friendship that brings you joy and is based on mutual respect.
Initiate Things
People that work are not only busy trying to keep their jobs and be financially stable but they seriously do not have that much socializing time. So making friends may not be high on their to-do list but, you don’t need to wait for anyone to reach out to you and take the first step. Instead, become the initiator.
Even if you’re an introvert, start the process with a simple conversation. Share something about you and also let them share about themselves. In exchanging something small but more personal about yourself you’re being open with them. This gives them permission to be open with you. Do curate the conversation and do not conduct an unending monologue. People do not need to know your life history, yet.
Sometimes you don’t need to say but do. Do a small favor. Small acts of kindness often lead to a connection. It doesn’t have to be big or obvious but a little gesture like offering to make tea or coffee.
Top Tips
Don’t change, act different to fit in, boast, be aggressive or expect results right away.
Do be yourself, interact and be patient.
