Having friends from way back is an accomplishment and is to be lauded but, many friendships you will find now do need to be let go.
Whether you like it or not there comes a time when you must unfriend some people and this is why
It is time
The days of you and a dozen or so friends moving around in “gangs’ ‘is over; you are no longer a 6 year old nor are you a teenager. Moving around in groups tends to breed a group mentality and it is time that you started to think for yourself.
Grant it making friends is not easy as an adult but, finding like-minded people is so much easier these days. With the help of work events, professional events and the internet, it is most likely that you are already in a prime place to make new friends if you haven’t yet.
Try not to drift back to the same old Facebook friends but, try other active groups. Engage and find new connections. If not already in an online community, look around for common interest groups or communities and join a few.
Your Personal Life Matters
You have responsibilities at work and at home. Married, single with children or no children unfriending some people can help with your personal life. Shrinking your friendship circles says your priorities have shifted. The job, the kids, the parents, the dependents, things needing done at home all become your focus.
Those unplanned random outings are not good for personal life you’ll see. If you do not shift priorities and preferences, this will take a toll on your personal life.
Your Mental Health Matters
Being older the body reacts differently, work has accelerated, too, as it tends to, and you will need space and some quiet to think. You don’t have to be up in each other’s business constantly, without breaks, for a friendship to feel meaningful or actualized.
Also, there are some friends that will be the “weak link’’ and seem to be stumbling from one crisis to another. Without saying it, you are the go to person but this is not good for your mental health. You are not an octopus, a camel or a robot. If you do not make a shift in behavior, your mental health will suffer.
Having breaks or breaking up permanently from certain friends means you will preserve your mental health and you will find that you will spend time with people because you love them and want to. Not because there is a crisis to handle.
The few friends you keep you will find it hard to maintain, but you will actively choose to maintain them, because they make your life richer and more enjoyable.
